You misread/misunderstood that question. I meant it in its entirety: if I don’t agree to sleep with him by the second date, will I never hear from again?

You may say: Yeah, most guys in today’s dating world expect sex that quickly.

You’re entitled to that opinion.

But I’m not cut that way. I wish there was a way to determine these things out of the gate, but I have yet to discover the right way to do that.

If I put it out there immediately that I’m not going to sleep with a guy quickly, he typically doesn’t believe me. Usually that’s on my gender. I have an entire story on that:

If a guy straight-up just wants to have sex with me and isn’t actually interested in getting to know me, I would prefer to know stat before I ever meet him or on the first date.

If he meets me once and I never hear from again, that’s cool.

But if he pretends to want to know me and then ghosts me after the second date because I didn’t sleep with him, that does bother me.

Don’t like me because I drink too much Cherry Coke or I have a kid or you don’t like that I’m a planner or whatever. But to ghost me SOLELY because I didn’t have sex with you that quickly, I wish you had told me that sex was all that mattered to you.

Thank you for reading.