You ask: What is to be done about it?
I don’t have all the answers, but for me: (1) Soul searching and therapy, (2) Taking breaks as needed, (3) Staying true to myself, (4) Trying to find the humor, (5) Adding my blog/writing as a new hobby, and (6) Enjoying my other loves like music, travel, fashion, and art. (Plus my regular life duties: adjunct faculty, mother, friend, etc, etc.)
I can’t change the dating world. And I’m unwilling to change my standards. So dating remains a challenge.
And, yes, you are right: it is definitely challenging for almost everyone out there!
Thank you for sharing your insight and for reading. I remain hopeful that you will meet a woman who sees your value and has ripped up the lengthy checklist! Best wishes to you!