I’ve seen dating advice for men that if she doesn’t sleep with you right away, then she’s not really attracted. She is just looking for “resources” and doesn’t find him sexy for real. This narrows the dating pool for men down to women who can have sex quickly.
Yes, some guys believe this emphatically. I was bemused and irked with a guy reader of mine who tried to argue with me about MY OWN FEELINGS regarding sex. It was truly bizarre!
He literally told me that how I(!) felt about sex (ie, needing a longer connection over time in order to be ready to be sexually intimate with someone) was not how I felt.
In any case, you make an excellent point about the detachment as well.
Thanks for your additional feedback, Emila!