Yes, I have written a story that touches on this. I call it the “jerk behind door number 3.” And the problem is that it is IMPOSSIBLE to guess which guy will be THAT guy!
You can’t tell by his photos, job, or profile.
Sadly, this happens to all of us from time-to-time. I’m glad you found it out before you met him and, of course, I’m sad it happened at all!
There are so many damaged people out there — it makes me sad. For them. For us. For society.
Hang in there, friend!