Yeah, there won't be a 4th date with Ian. I must add, though, that the vast majority of men expect sex by the 2nd or 3rd date. Their experience tells them this is a realistic expectation. This is a function of many factors. So expecting sex very quickly isn't necessarily a red flag; rather, it requires a conversation about expectations. Most of the time that leads to an impasse but other times it clarifies my timeline and whether we're on the same page. Do I love this aspect of middle-aged dating? I do not. But I understand that's the reality and try to navigate it to the best of my abilities. Thanks for reading!