It’s just a pet peeve of mine that there is so much complaining about dating in general, and online dating in particular.

What you perceive as complaining, I perceive as being honest in sharing my experiences. My stories and experiences resonate with some, educate others, and miss the mark for a few. It appears you are in the last category, which is certainly fine.

The reality is that I can find dates quite easily. But 90% of those men are only interested in sex. That holds zero interest for me. If they were upfront about that, then it would be on me for meeting them anyway. I find that very few of them are, so I have to wade through some really vulgar and disappointing behavior. That is my truth and other people’s truths.

I understand your points. I have discussed them with my therapists and guy friends plus I am constantly doing my own self-analysis. You are one of many who has assumed that I only go for “10s.” It’s exhausting to have this assumption made about me.

My greatest relationship post-marriage was with the guy who was 5'6" who was on the verge of losing his home.

The Brit I write about is 5'9", has jacked up teeth, and receding hair. He was on the verge of bankruptcy. I adored him anyway.

For what it’s worth, my friends say one of two things when pondering setting me up: (1) I don’t know any single guys or (2) none of the single guys I know are worthy of you.

I assure you I am well aware that I am a middle aged chick who isn’t into casual sex, doesn’t drink, and would rather hang at the V&A than talk about sports. That knocks off a lot of guys.

C’est la vie.

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