Understood. I struggle with privacy concerns. My stories aren’t usually that risque, but they do involve OTHER PEOPLE. So I’m always balancing honesty and authenticity of the story (from my perspective) while attempting to honor the other person.

The dudes who have treated me shoddily or not stuck around for long are fair game (with no names), but I’m not sure what to do about other stories that involve guys that I feel a sense of protection (whether they deserve it or not). There are lessons/stories of value there, but I’m not sure how comfortable I feel in sharing what is really “our” story rather than “my” story.

Time will tell how I resolve those concerns.

I’m not like most women out there in the online dating realm it seems. I feel like some bizarre throwback. Few guys believe me when I tell them that I’m not sleeping with them by the third date. They often take it as a challenge rather than a declaration. I’m trying to be upfront and direct about my, well, chasteness. There will probably be a story (or 2 or 3) about that, but I haven’t figured out exactly how I want to convey/share those stories.

Truthfully writing about my dismal dating disasters is still something I am getting my head around. I’m shocked anyone is reading any of them!

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