Thank you so much for reading and responding, Betty!
I am having the EXACT opposite experiences: NO commitment at all, ghosting, vanishing even after a great date, and only looking for casual sex. (My therapist has actually encouraged me to move from Austin once my son is older. It’s THAT bad here for a woman over 40 looking for something real. Not to say there aren’t exceptions, I just don’t seem to find them.)
In any case, I am so pleased to hear that my story has provided inspiration! You sound AMAZINGLY together — you deserve the same! Best wishes to you on your search — keep those standards high!