Thank you for the thoughtful response, Stella! It’s still a nerve-wracking thing for me to put out into the world my experiences and opinions about such personal topics.

I’m caught in a middle land that doesn’t seem to have much of a voice out there. It sounds like you are part of that “middle,” too. I’m glad we found each other!

I interacted with a guy on match who stated he was “Christian” in several places in his profile. Within a few hours of messaging/texting, he was talking about the merits of anal sex. Seriously?!? He has been dubbed by me as #analsexdude. I never met him and eventually had the opportunity to point out the conflicted messsage he was sending. To his credit he conceded that I might have a point.

I’m sorry you had your own experiences with the contradictory nature of guys and dating, but at least you know you’re not alone! Best wishes to you!

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