Thank you for the follow-up. Food for thought.

I would counter that I have personally known, read about on Medium and elsewhere, and have had therapists confirm that women may appear to enjoy “playful” sex (read: degrading).

Women have faked orgasms. They have faked enjoying all sorts of types of sex.

Frequently it is not until years later or another relationship that these same women realize that they actually felt violated, degraded, used, or coerced. Of course, by that point, that original sexual partner is long gone and has no idea how what he perceived as “playful” actually affected and impacted that woman.

I don’t say this to blame men. It’s a complicated, confusing world. And, most assuredly, some women respond positively and sincerely enjoy all sorts of alternative sex acts.

I only share this to give you a different insight.

As for me, I find that players and I don’t mix. Fortunately, we tend to avoid each other. I appreciate your suggestion, but I am definitely a one man woman and need the same in return (not after the first date but in general). That does make dating more difficult for me, but I’m at peace about that.

Best wishes and thanks for reading!

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