Thank you for reading, responding, and the compliment!

I’m not sure if you mean to be as thought-provoking as you ended up being, but I’ve been reflecting on your response all morning.

Why did I go out with him anyway? It’s a long and complicated answer, but the very short answer is: (1) I rarely find anyone that fits a lot of my needs/wants and in a very practical way, he did AND (2) My therapist has recommended that I try to be more relaxed at the beginning of relationships, keep a more open mind — this was my attempt to do so.

If you missed this response of mine, it might help explain why I gave this more time than I should have:

I’m extremely decisive, which can be a blessing but a bit of a curse in the dating realm. I’m trying to balance my natural tendency to know what works for me while also giving new relationships space to breathe. I’m still working on that balance!

Even though I got hurt here, I can see that standing up for myself and calling this guy out leaves me in a better emotional space.

Thank you again, Sunyata, because you made me reflect on this story and my actions/reactions in a deeper way!

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