Some people say they are attracted to intelligence because they think they are expected to add that to their list. But I think lots of people are intimidated by intelligence. I have not found intelligence to be a universally attractive attribute.

Most people will say that humor is one of the most attractive things that someone can possess. I think most would say: doesn’t everyone want someone hilarious? Not me. I find people who are constantly cracking jokes to be exhausting. I prefer a more sly, witty sense of humor, though I’m not above a good pratfall!

I’m not a genius. I’m not in Mensa. I wasn’t a Rhode Scholar. But I attended the top accounting program in the country, have my CPA, and don’t play dumb.

FWIW, I have had many guys tell me (the longer they get to know me): wow! You’re really smart. I knew you were, but I didn’t realize you were THAT smart.

I’d say: I have lots of smart friends. I’m the dumbest person in the room whenever I’m with them. And I am well aware of that fact.

As for who I date, typically they are intelligent, but it doesn’t always correlate to education. It might be that they have extensive knowledge about music or own their own company or have a wide variety of interests that aren’t familiar to me.

Hopefully that answers your questions!

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