Sigh. Feel free to read about the perfect guy who dumped me. I was devastated and thought I'd finally found the right match after my divorce and years of slogging through dating. HE DUMPED ME!

https://bonniebarton.medium.com/i-dated-the-smart-hot-version-of-forrest-gump-4641af259b96

I suppose I could have continued a relationship with the guy who didn't honor my boundaries and "joked" about making a sex tape with me. The guy who had not one but two baby mamas. The guy who realized that he wanted an S&M relationship and my degradation was a must for that relationship to work. The Brit who I would have happily walked off into the sunset with - he ran hot and cold until he admitted that he'd finally met someone else. The sweetheart of a guy who I wrote about a couple of years ago. He wasn't ready to date anyone seriously much less me. The guy who told me I shouldn't wear any undergarments on our first date. Surely he is the guy I let get away! The guy who called me crying that he really liked me but couldn't be in any relationship with anyone at the moment. He posted pictures five weeks later of him and his new girlfriend on a cruise together. The assortment of guys over the years who have blown me off, canceled on me, vanished on me.

I have been in therapy for years. I have self-reflected on my issues. I have spent too many hours asking "what am I doing wrong" and "how am I contributing to this" and "how can I do better."

Frankly, nothing you wrote resonates with my personal story or experience, though I acknowledge it could be an issue for others.