I want to believe I can be good enough to her that maybe I’ll be the guy who brings out the decent person lurking in there

Oh, you’re the male version of the woman who thinks she can convert the bad boy. I get it! But, yeah, that’s gonna end badly for you. (I just sighed audibly.)

I do think the signs get easier to tell the longer you date and the more you self-reflect. I’m much quicker to spot shady behavior than I used to be. I reckon I’ve become a savvier dater (for better or worse).

I will add: your enthusiasm, optimism, and passion are such a large part of your charm. I know it’s hard to straddle that enthusiasm while guarding your heart.

Thank you so much for reading and responding, Heath ዟ! You are da bomb. (I don’t believe I’ve ever referred to anything as “da bomb!”)


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