Oh, my — this is beautifully conveyed! I feel like I need to embed your response into my original article!

I think so many people have an issue with #4. It is difficult for people to be honest in what they are truly willing to commit to. Saying “no” is a challenge for most. (Oddly, I never had a problem with it. I saw it as honesty rather than being hurtful.)

You are so right about the additions of “if”, “but”, or “maybe”. I would prefer no apology over a cobbled-together, muddied sort-of-an-apology.

You could not know this, but your complimenting my “grace” is particularly touching. That was my mantra during my divorce a few years ago and has remained a guiding force in my decision-making.

A friend once commented that I was the most “compassionately honest” person he’d ever met. I won’t hide or lie to someone, but neither will I intentionally wound (unless someone refuses to back off, then watch out!).

I innately straddle some bizarre line of grace and directness.

In any case, I thank you for reading my story, for your insight, and for your thoughtfulness.

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