It’s just wanting the gold without appreciating the rainbow. I used to expect it pretty quickly, theorizing that we were older and it wasn’t that big of a deal, but that was the problem. If I was after a real relationship, it should have been a bigger deal.

My heart sort of skipped a beat when I read this, Jonathan Greene. You wrote a story last year (last year — ha!). I can’t remember the title now, but you allude to it above. I decided not to respond. Or if I did, I truncated my thoughts. I didn’t want to pick apart your truth. (It might have also been during a time that I was being attacked daily by trolls and naysayers. My energy might have been depleted.)

I will simply say now that the paragraph you wrote today makes my heart swell.

I’m really not here to say that viewing sex as a big deal is the only approach; rather, I’m here to say: if it is to you, that’s okay. Today. Even now. Even in 2019. Even with online dating. With instant gratification and short attention spans worse than ever.

It’s okay to hold the belief that sex is something…more.

I will always be that voice on Medium and in real life.

Thank you as always for responding today, Jonathan Greene. This was especially kind-hearted and I’m most appreciative!

You are a very fascinating person — I am intrigued to see how this year unfolds for you!

Queen of mixtapes. Lover of music, travel, and fashion. Authentic sharer of life lessons and dating foibles.

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