I’ve done it all: no communication once the date is set to lots of texting/phone calls and everything in between!

I have evolved on the whole “getting to know you before the date” aspect. I do think the more seasoned you are, the more likely you are to just move things along in person rather than investing emotionally much beforehand.

As I said, my perfect balance is a short window till first date time with some fun banter and maybe a 30 minute phone call if I feel uncertain about the guy.

But I really can see this from so many perspectives!

Thank you so much for reading and adding your thoughts, Stella!

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