I’m so relieved you could reassure this woman that the guy was the problem, not her! Manipulative is the perfect word!
About a year ago I told my therapist that I felt that if I slept with every guy I liked by the second date and kept doing that for a year, that I felt pretty sure I would accidentally stumble into a relationship.
I’d have to sell my soul, values, and entire moral code to do it, but I suspect it would work. In the end, the price is too steep for me(though my ongoing loneliness isn’t that great either).
Anyhoo, yes, I am at a point now where I do believe a woman is more likely to find herself in a relationship if she has sex immediately. It makes me sad and disheartened. And I know that it is causing a lot of damage to many women (and men, too, I’m sure) because that means having sex with a lot of people that you don’t even know or care about (and vice versa) in the hope that it might work out.
Of course, on the flip side, adults can choose whatever they want to do. It’s not up to me to determine what is right for other people. To each his or her own!
Thank you for sharing my stories with your friends and my sincerest thanks for your encouraging words and support of my writing, Emila!