I, too, got lucky and had a VERY unlikely source to lean on during my divorce. It’s a CRAZY story. He is even more private than I am, so I have kept it mostly secret because he is someone that I knew back in my hometown. We actually went to school together for 13 years! But I hadn’t seen or heard from him in ages nor were we close when we attended school together.
We bonded instantly, though, and have a beautiful friendship these years later. Just friends. Glorious friends.
So glad you found that perfect shoulder to lean on, Jonathan!
And not that you asked, but: (as I think you know from my stories) I may not sleep with guys very quickly (a con for most dudes), I’m not jealous. At all. I might initially need to understand your relationship with her, but then I’d be cool. I would have zero interest in giving you grief or being weird about her or pressing you to meet her. Rather, I would be glad you had someone you trusted as a sounding board. (I realize you have no imminent dating plans, but I wanted you to hear a fresh female perspective on that.)
I always appreciate your honesty!