I sure hope “Sue” got some serious therapy! That feels like a very unhealthy (physically and emotionally) way to approach dating (and life)!

Do I think all women who are looking for casual sex with total strangers are unhealthy? No.

But your story also confirms my belief: that many women who are seeking out sex on a first date (particularly with guys that they didn’t really text/talk on the phone with) are not coming from a safe, responsible place. Especially when these women intentionally drink too much or state that they don’t want to have sex…and then proceed to throw themselves at their date.

I’m so sorry to hear about your own issues, Emila Skytracker, and am glad to hear that you were able to determine the root cause and work past them.

I appreciate you sharing your friend’s experience and your own insights today!

It can take a lot of emotional work and time to untangle our histories — I applaud those who do that difficult work to come out with additional self-awareness, honesty, and wisdom.

Many thanks for reading my stories today and responding!

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