I just sighed audibly.

It’s true that I’m attracted to smart, lanky, strong-jawed, good-haired guys with light eyes. We all have our preferences. I’m sure many guys would love a lean woman with full lips, a big chest, and bootylicious. One can be attracted to an ideal type, but also recognize that we need to be open-minded and realistic about who we are attracted to AND can attract.

I have dated guys who were 5'6" to 6'5", average weight, lanky, athletic.

I have fallen hard for a Brit who was 5'9", not lanky — average build. He had the most beautiful accent I’ve ever heard and could talk about the V&A and streets of Paris. I’m not sure if he graduated from college. I was utterly enamored with him. And he was with me. But his life is, well, a wreck and he can’t date anyone for the foreseeable future.

I’ve never dated anyone in Mensa and only a couple of Ivy League grads. As for lanky Texans, I’ve dated exactly one.

I’ve dated IT guys, engineers, a really hot tennis instructor, a few self-employed guys including this beau-turned-dear-friend, and lots of mid-management business dudes.

It’s true that bald guys aren’t my thing, though the few bald guys I have reached out to have, without exception, blown me off. It must be a mutual thing.

My long-winded point: I connect with who I connect with. I have a type (broadly speaking), but I don’t have a checklist requiring an IQ pre-requisite.

None of that changes the fact that I’m a sapiosexual. Which doesn’t define who I find attractive; rather, it’s one factor.

Thank you for reading and adding your definition for active lifestyle.