I have met lots of guys that I liked, but we were incompatible or they were not interested in me/a relationship with me:

There was the guy I dated for 3 dates who then asked to make a sex tape with me. I ended the relationship at that point.

The guy who I went out with 4 or 5 times. He then dumped me because he realized he needed an S&M relationship based upon my degradation. (I was not comfortable with that.)

The 3 different guys I really liked who were actually not divorced yet. (They said the divorce was final on their profile, but they came clean on our first date. For the record: they really were all separated and getting divorced, but that is too much drama for me.)

The on-and-off beau of 18 months. The relationship almost killed me. Literally. My organs started shutting down. Since ending the relationship almost 3 years ago I have been sick exactly 3 days.

The guy I adore and who adores me, but he works 18 hours a day 6–7 days a week. Very sadly, he has no time for me.

The guy who thinks I’m one of the most beautiful people (on the inside and out) he has ever met, but decided to stay in a volatile, unhappy relationship rather than pursuing a relationship with me.

Countless great first dates where I have never heard from the guy ever again. (I guess I thought they were great, but the guys didn’t.)

Whenever I have let my feelings be known— grabbed the guy as you suggest — that I wanted a real relationship, the guy has bolted.

It is true that I have high standards, but it is equally true that I have been open to exploring relationships with a number of men. They opted to move on.

C’est la vie.

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