I have been asked out in “real life” by exactly one guy in the past 4 years. It would be lovely if I were constantly meeting charming, single men who would like the opportunity to get to know me on an emotional level. Sadly, that is not my reality.

I have asked out numerous guys to concerts (where I paid for the ticket), paid for babysitting, and even paid for travel expenses for some of my beaus. I do not use men for meal tickets/financial gain. As explained here:

It’s clear that you have read nothing else about me but preferred to lump me in with some other women.

I do not nor have I ever had a hook-up, casual sex, or been an FWB. In fact, I wrote an entire story about it:

Additionally, you will see that I have been very even-handed in my writing on P.S. I Love You regarding both men and women.

And, finally, I would love someone’s hand to hold. That’s why I do this whole dating thing even though it is frequently painful and disappointing.

This story highlights the challenges that I have personally encountered in trying to find that sincere connection:

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