I have a knack (and a bit of a soft spot) for a specific strain of the male equivalent of “let’s text but never meet”: the guy who is recently separated or divorced — he admits to being overwhelmed and lacking in self-confidence. This guy isn’t ready to meet anyone yet and usually has gone on 1 or 2 (if any) dates. I typically try to give him some pointers.

I don’t want to date him. (I have made that mistake too many times. The last time I got burned yet AGAIN, I made a vow I would never do it again. That was a year ago and I have more-or-less honored my own promise.)

Anyhoo, I share this because dudes do this, too. They aren’t usually piling on about their exes, though. Instead they are awkwardly and cluelessly trying to move on, but in no position to be dating anyone at the moment.

I always love hearing hearing the male perspective on dating — thanks for sharing this, Brian Brewington!

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