I can listen, but I’m the chick who wants to help solve problems! It tends to depend on who I’m with, how well I know them, whether the issue is an ongoing one, and how complex the issue is.
My default if nothing else is some random music dedication! (I’m sure that doesn’t surprise you at this point!)
But you make an excellent point: there is much value in learning to stay quiet and be present for a friend/someone in need rather than steamrolling or placating with useless cliches!
“Everything happens for a reason” needs to be retired!!!