I am actually less concerned with earning power. It would be more accurate to say that my numerous dating experiences (and conversations with my therapist) have clarified that being more-or-less equal with my potential partner in life experiences and lifestyle (which roughly equates to a similar socio-economic background) is more likely to work out for me and my significant other.

Recently I was dumped because my car was too nice. I kid you not.

Our dates had included my getting tap water twice. And a donut. (I had to pay my babysitter significantly more than he ever spent on me. Which is fine.)

I also have been the subject of passive-aggressiveness and being used financially due to my vs. my SO financial situation. I have had to pay for all the travel expenses for beaus because they could not afford to vacation with me. I did not ask to be reimbursed and did not make a big deal out of it. I’m pragmatic.

I understand that men and women have their own pitfalls in relationship. There most certainly are women who use men for their money, for a free meal ticket. I am saddened that happens.

In any case, thank you for responding.

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