Excellent — so glad you saw that one and that it proved helpful!

I think it’s a delicate balance: be true to yourself but acknowledge that if you want to have success (ie, actually meet women), you have to stand out in a sea of other people.

Our attention span is short. We only have a few seconds to capture someone’s attention. That’s the reality of online dating.

I certainly understand feeling a bit turned off by the very nature of online dating. But, personally, I don’t over-analyze the “marketing” aspect of online dating too much. I accept it as part of the system and not something I can control. You will either find that you can move beyond that concept. Or not. (Not everyone can and they, ultimately, decide to stop looking online.)

As for your specific profile, I can say that it would be too much for ME. But I’m probably too practical/accountant-y for you, so I’m not your ideal match anyway. (I’m smiling over here. I’m not a good match for a lot of guys. One of the reasons I’m still single!)

(To be very specific, I prefer the punk rock/woodworking over the other for your profile. But I suspect most women would prefer the other language. Even quirkier: I would probably REALLY dig the other sentence once I knew you and you texted that to me privately. It would feel more special to me. Again, though, that’s me. I might not be representative of other women.)

Anyhoo…I’ve actually been kicking around the idea of offering a service (for a fee) of reviewing profiles/answering specific questions for guys. It’s still incubating in my head, but I think there might be a market for my, ahem, expertise.

I’m babbling. My vote would be to try a few different things with your profile to see if you notice any changes. I will add that a lot of people are out of town for another week, so this might not be the best time to get accurate results. By mid-January people are settled back in and looking to date again.

Thanks for reading, Anthony Bowman!

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