Again, I REALLY appreciate your thorough response!
I am technologically-challenged and can’t seem to highlight your second and third paragraphs.
I did some major soul-searching coming off my divorce and decided I just wasn’t cut out for the type of relationship you are describing. For years I have wondered if by drawing this hard sexual line that I might be inadvertently missing out on some great relationship where we sort of accidentally stumble into something. (Sex first, then amazing relationship afterward.)
But my gut has told me that I would probably not fall into something like that. Or that I would have to feel used repeatedly before accidentally finding something more serious (and more importantly, the type of relationship that I am really looking for on the front end).
So, you have answered my question for me. (You couldn’t have known that this is something I have struggled with, so it’s providential that you responded a second time.)
I know that SOME people begin with a casual sexual relationship and find the loves of their lives. Which is fantastic. But also the exception. I have no doubt (especially after reading your feedback) that drawing this line is what is healthiest for me. Even if it means that I am single a lot.
Thank you, Morrigan! Your entire response was enlightening (and depressing)! I wish you all the best in your search and am keeping my fingers crossed that you meet someone worthy!