A man who impregnates a second woman while still ironing out custody issues in court with the first woman will never fall in my definition of “being on top of things.” But, yes, I commend him for owning up to his responsibilities. At no point did I swipe at his honesty or responsibilities as a father.
I shared how this experience informed “my character”: that I will no longer feel guilt for not being attracted to someone who is not my type.
I’m not certain that you read the entire story. It seems you missed the fact that he insulted me for not drinking or being relaxed enough to suit him, but I maintained my smile during that insult and attempted to engage him for the entire 45 minutes.
One MIGHT argue that your assumption that I was interviewing him (rather than attempting to engage in a thoughtful conversation) would inform you as to something in your own character.
Finally, I am most assuredly visually stimulated along with intellectually stimulated. The rest develops from there.